Do You Decide?Do you sometimes refrain from making a decision and let life pass you by a little? Do you find it
easier to let others decide or perhaps just not get involved and wait and see what happens? Well
even though you are not actively making a decision you are still making a stand, making a decision in
fact, by not actually making the decision in front of you. Sometimes we wait because we are unsure
what to do. However by choosing indifference you are opting out of participating in the game of life.
By letting others take control you are missing out on what is actually your life. Yes there are
compromises to be made and yes sometimes it is someone else who needs to make the decision but
most decisions that affect you and your life should have some input from you!
By choosing to actively participate in life and make those decisions can be scary – you are likely to
make mistakes and of course some of your decisions will not be the best but you can only make the
best decision that you can at the time and with the knowledge that you have available. Be prepared
for noble failure – when you make a mistake or could have done better but the decision you made
was an honest noble decision with the best at heart.
Don’t you feel that it is much more important to engage with your life, have skin in the game, fully
participate in your life rather than just watch from the side lines? When you become an active
member in your life you will find yourself starting to have your own ideas, ambitions and opinions.
Where you have perhaps hid behind others, scared to voice an opinion or worried you will make
mistake you will find yourself empowered. You may be anxious about your judgement or the quality
of your decisions. This is totally natural if you are not used to being decisive. Ironically the more
decisions you take part in and the more you practise the better your judgement will become. Yes
the first few bigger decision you may feel on shaky ground – in this case start small.
Pick some things to start with that do not have such a great impact. Even something small like
where you and your friends will go for your next meal out. Or what your family will get up to at the
weekend. If you are concerned present a few options as ideas as a start. Just by taking the reins and
being ready to make a decision will be good practice. You will find the more you do this the more
you start to enjoy things and the more of yourself you will have invested in the things you do. By
this I mean that you will have a stake in those activities that you have been involved with- you will
“feel” more about the outcome and the success of the activity. This becomes more and more
empowering as you take on more and more. Your judgement will improve and so will your